When your partner is diagnosed with cancer, it may feel like your world has ended. It’s very common for the partners of cancer patients to fall into the same type of despair and hopelessness as those that have been diagnosed. This is what you want to avoid. Your partner will be struggling enough on their own. You need to be a shoulder for them to lean on. You need to be the strong one. This can be extremely difficult, but by staying positive, you will be helping your partner through their tough times a lot better. Make sure your partner knows that you are with them unconditionally, no matter how bad things get. Assure them that they can always count on you. These are the things they’ll need to hear.
You won’t know how they truly feel without going through the same thing, but you can still help them. Overcoming fear of cancer is difficult, but there are ways you can make your partner less afraid. Do research about all the treatments available, buy them motivational books to help them understand their situation better and offer to take them to support groups or to a therapist.
You should do your own research to better understand their situation. Read stories from survivors of cancer to better understand what emotions your partner is feeling. Try to be as sensitive to their emotions as possible. While you might think that maintain a cheery façade all the time is the best way to help them, they might need you to be serious with them as well. Don’t dismiss their fears and feelings. Listen, listen and listen some more. Working through these fears will help them more than just glossing over them.
Stay strong for your partner and remember to cherish them. Your love will mean the world to them during these hard times.